The Tradition of Bonbonniere
The custom of giving bonbonnieres dates back to early Europe, where aristocratic families would present guests with small boxes filled with sweets or sugar as a token of appreciation. At a time when sugar was a rare luxury, such gifts served not only as a keepsake but also as a subtle display of wealth and social status. While this tradition began with weddings, it soon extended to other milestone events.
Today, while sugar is no longer a luxury item, the tradition of offering small, thoughtful gifts, now also known as party favours, lolly bags, party bags etc, continues. These tokens are now associated with a wide range of celebrations including birthdays, baby showers, christenings, engagement parties, and bridal showers. The original symbolism of wealth and fortune has faded. The intention now is to offer guests a lovely memento and say ‘Thank You’.
A Sweet Symbol of Tradition
Like many wedding customs, bonbonnieres are steeped in symbolism and superstition. In Italy, sugared almonds have long been used as a traditional gift. Typically presented in sets of five, each almond represents a wish for the couple’s: happiness, health, longevity, wealth, and fertility.
The almonds' bittersweet taste, combined with their sugary coating, is said to reflect the dual nature of marriage - both its joys and its challenges. Some traditions even attributed aphrodisiac properties to almonds, adding a romantic touch to their inclusion in wedding favours.
Modern Takes on Bonbonnieres
In recent years, traditional almonds have made way for a wide variety of modern alternatives. This shift is especially welcome for guests with dietary restrictions, such as nut allergies. Today’s bonbonnieres span a diverse range from DIY candy bags and custom cookies to practical, decorative items that double as table décor and keepsakes.
The possibilities are virtually limitless. Whether you’re a candy lover, a chocolate enthusiast, or have always dreamed of a beautiful lolly buffet, these preferences should inspire your gift selections.
From Trinkets to Tokens
Personalisation is often used in contemporary bonbonnieres. Boxes, bottles, jars, stickers, ribbons etc can be printed on, monogrammed etc.
Such items not only add to the overall theme of the event but also reflect the couple’s personality and offer guests a sweet way to end the celebration.
Are Bonbonnieres Required?
The short answer to this is - absolutely not. Bonbonnieres are entirely optional and should reflect your preferences, not tradition or expectation. It’s your celebration, your wedding, your event - so make it your own.
If you do choose to include bonbonnieres, ensure they align with your event’s theme, colour palette, and, most importantly, your personal style. Whether whimsical, elegant, or functional, your favours should represent you.
Placement Ideas for Bonbonnieres
How you present your little gifts can be just as meaningful as the gifts themselves. Here are some placement ideas to consider:
- Place Settings
- The most traditional option, with one favour placed at each guest’s seat. This ensures everyone receives a gift and adds a personal touch to each setting.
- Consider having different favours for any children attending.
- Dedicated Bonbonniere Table
- Set up a beautifully arranged table near the entrance, cake display, or guest book.
- Guests can collect their gifts as they arrive or depart.
- Enhance the display by combining it with a candy bar or a signature guest book.
- Great for cocktail style receptions.
- Incorporated Into Centrepieces
- Integrate bonbonnieres into your table centrepieces for a decorative and budget-friendly option.
- Guests can take their favours at the end of the event, creating both a visual and conversational element.
- Handed Out by the Hosts
- Add a personal touch by distributing the gifts yourselves during the reception. This allows you to personally thank each guest.
- Exit Table
- Place a table near the venue’s exit for guests to collect their gifts as they leave. This ensures convenience and allows for a smooth transition at the end of the event.
When planning your bonbonniere display, consider your venue layout, guest flow, and the type of favours you’ve selected. Whether traditional or modern, these small gestures will leave a lasting and sweet impression.